Monthly Archives: October 2007

Life is game of mental balance

Dear All

“Life is game of mental balance.” How we can maintain our mental balance for achieving our long terms goal, career and ultimate target of life?

Please share your valuable ideas, thoughts, experience etc with LinkedIn community.

With warm regards
Ram Chandra Srivastava
(YAMAHA Group Co.)

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Necktie – History, Importance, Types of Knot

History: The earliest known version of the necktie has been found in the massive mausoleum of China’s first emperor, Shih Huang Ti, who was buried in 210 B.C. Desperately afraid of death, the emperor wanted to slaughter an entire to army to accompany him into the next world. His advisers ultimately persuaded him to take life-size replicas of the soldiers instead.

The result is one of the marvels of the ancient world. Unearthed in 1974 near the ancient capital city of Xian, the tomb contained an astonishing 7,500 life-size terracotta replicas of Shih Huang Ti’s famed fighting force. Legions of officers, soldiers, archers and horsemen, all carved in meticulous detail, guard the emperor’s sarcophagus. The armor, uniforms, hair, and facial expressions of the soldiers are reproduced in exquisite detail. Each figure is different – except in one respect: all wear neck cloths.

Sanskrit origins: Derived from the Sanskrit word, bandhna, or bandhana, meaning “tying”, bandannas were first imported from India around 1700. The original bandannas were silk and came in an array of colors, including red, blue, green, brown, black and white, pink, and yellow. Bandannas could also be hand printed or tie-dyed with flowers or bird’s eye patterns.

Importance of Necktie: Ties as signs of membership
The use of coloured and patterned neckties indicating the wearer’s membership in a club, military regiment, school etc.
The colours themselves may be particularly significant. The dark blue and red regimental tie of the Household Cavalry is said to represent the blue blood of the Royal Family, and the red blood of the Guards.

Types of Knot:
Windsor Knot
1.Start with wide end of the tie on your right and extending a foot below narrow end.

Windsor Knot

2. Cross wide end over narrow and bring up through loop.


3. Cross wide end over narrow and bring up through loop.


4. Then put down through loop and around across narrow as shown.


5. Turn and pass up through loop and…

Windsor Knot

6. Complete by slipping down through the knot in front. Tighten and draw up snug to collar.

Windsor Knot

Half Windsor Knot

1.Start with wide end of the tie on your right and extending a foot below narrow end.

Windsor Knot

2. Cross wide end over narrow and turn back underneath.

Half Windsor Knot

3. Bring up and turn down through loop.

Half Windsor Knot

4. Pass wide end around front from left to right.

Half Windsor Knot

5. Then up through loop…

Half Windsor Knot

6. And down through know in front. Tighten carefully and draw up to collar.

Windsor Knot

Four in Hand Knot

1.Start with wide end of the tie on your right and extending a foot below narrow end.

Windsor Knot

2. Cross wide end over narrow and back underneath.

Half Windsor Knot

3. Continue around passing wide end across front of narrow once more.

Four in Hand Knot

4. Pass side end up through loop.

Four in Hand Knot

5. Holding front of knot loose with index finger, pass wide end down through loop in front.

Four in Hand Knot

6. Remove finger and tighten knot carefully. Draw up tight to collar by holding narrow end and sliding knot snug.

Windsor Knot

knot a bow tie

1.Start with end in right hand, extending 1.5 inch below that in left hand.

knot a bow tie

2. Cross longer end over shorter and pass up through loop.

knot a bow tie

3. Form front loop of bow by doubling up shorter end (hanging) end placing across collar points.

knot a bow tie

4. Hold this front loop with thumb and forefinger of right hand. Drop long end down over front.

knot a bow tie

5. Place left forefinger pointing up on bottom half of hanging part. Pass up behind front loop and…

knot a bow tie

6. Poke resulting loop though knot behind front loop (see illustration). Even ends and tighte

knot a bow tie

With warm regards
Ram Chandra Srivastava
(YAMAHA Group Co.)

Conflict Resolution

About Conflict
Index of About Conflict

What is it?

Role of Perception

Why We Avoid Dealing with Conflict

and other questions…

Common Problems
Index of Common Problems

Dealing with Someone Unwilling to Negotiate

Addressing Power Imbalances

Managing Impasse

Multi-party disputes

and other questions…

Simulations, Exercises & Resources
Simulations & Exercises


8 Steps For Conflict Resolution

1. “Know Thyself” and Take Care of Self

2. Clarify Personal Needs Threatened by the Dispute

3. Identify a Safe Place for Negotiation

4. Take a Listening Stance into the Interaction

5. Assert Your Needs Clearly and Specifically

6. Approach Problem-Solving with Flexibility

7. Manage Impasse with Calm, Patience, and Respect

8. Build an Agreement that Works

Need more advice?
Submit a question to Harry Webne-Behrman

Interactions with American clients – Useful tips

1. Do not write “the same” in an email – it makes little sense to them.

Example – I will try to organize the project artifacts and inform you of the same when it is done

This is somewhat an Indian construct. It is better written simply as:
I will try to organize the project artifacts and inform you when that is done

2. Do not write or say, “I have some doubts on this issue”
The term “Doubt” is used in the sense of doubting someone – we use this term because in Indian languages (such as Tamil), the      word for a “doubt”     and a “question” is the same.
The correct usage (for clients) is:
I have a few questions on this issue

3.The term “regard” is not used much in American English. They usually do not say “regarding this issue” or “with regard to this”.
Simply use, “about this issue”.

4.Do not say “Pardon” when you want someone to repeat what they said . The word “Pardon” is unusual for them and is somewhat formal.

5. Americans do not understand most of the Indian accent immediately – They only understand 75% of what we speak and then interpret the rest.         Therefore try not to use shortcut terms such as “Can’t” or “Don’t”. Use the expanded “Cannot” or “Do not”.

6. Do not use the term “screwed up” liberally. If a situation is not good, it is better to say, “The situation is messed up”. Do not use words such as “shucks”, or “pissed off”.

7. As a general matter of form, Indians interrupt each other constantly in meetings – DO NOT interrupt a client when they are speaking. Over the phone, there could be delays – but wait for a short time before responding.

8. When explaining some complex issue, stop occasionally and ask “Does that make sense?”. This is preferrable than “Do you understand me?”

9. In email communications, use proper punctuation. To explain something, without breaking your flow, use semicolons, hyphens or paranthesis.
As an example:
You have entered a new bug (the popup not showing up) in the defect tracking system; we could not reproduce it – although,
a screenshot would help.

Notice that a reference to the actual bug is added in paranthesis so that the sentence flow is not broken. Break a long sentence
using such punctuation.

10. In American English, a mail is a posted letter. An email is electronic mail. When you say
“I mailed the information to you”
, it means you sent an actual letter or package through the postal system.
   The correct usage is:
“I emailed the information to you”

11. To “prepone” an appointment is an Indian usage. There is no actual word called prepone. You can “advance” an appointment.

12. In the term “N-tier Architecture” or “3-tier Architecture” , the word “tier” is NOT pronounced as “Tire”. I have seen many people pronounce it this way. The correct pronunciation is “tea-yar”. The “ti” is pronounced as “tea”.

13. The usages “September End”, “Month End”, “Day End” are not understood well by Americans. They use these as “End of September”, “End of Month” or “End of Day”.

14. Americans have weird conventions for time – when they say the time is “Quarter Of One”, they mean the time is 1:15. Better to ask them the exact time.

15. Indians commonly use the terms “Today Evening”, “Today Night”. These are not correct; “Today” means “This Day” where the Day stands for Daytime. Therefore “Today Night” is confusing. The correct usages are: “This Evening”, “Tonight”.
That applies for “Yesterday Night” and “Yesterday Evening”. The correct usages are: “Last Night” and “Last Evening”.

16. When Americans want to know the time, it is usual for them to say, ” Do you have the time?”. Which makes no sense to an indian.

17. There is no word called “Updation”. You update somebody. You wait for updates to happen to the database. Avoid saying “Updation”.

18. When you talk with someone for the first time, refer to them as they refer to you – in America , the first conversation usually starts by using the first name. Therefore you can use the first name of a client. Do not say “Sir”. Do not call women “Madam”.

19. It is usual convention in initial emails (particularly technical) to expand abbreviations, this way:
We are planning to use the Java API For Registry (JAXR).

After mentioning the expanded form once, subsequently you can use the abbreviation.

20. Make sure you always have a subject in your emails and that the subject is relevant . Do not use a subject line such as HI  .

21.Avoid using “Back” instead of “Back” Use “ago”.Back is the worst word for American. (for Days use “Ago”,For hours use “before”)

22.Avoid using “but” instead of “But” Use “However”.

23.Avoid using “Yesterday” hereafter use “Last day”.

24.Avoid using “Tomorrow”hereafter use “Next day”.

With warm regards
Ram Chandra Srivastava
(YAMAHA Group Co.)

Extract of Mr. Narayana Murthy’s Speech during Mentor Session

I know people who work 12 hours a day, six days a week, or more.Some people do so because of a work emergency where the long hours are only temporary.

Other people I know have put in these hours for years. I don’t know if they are working all these hours, but I do know they are in the office this long.Others put in long office hours because they are addicted to the workplace.

Whatever the reason for putting in overtime, working long hours over the long term is harmful to the person and to the organization. There are things managers can do to change this for everyone’s benefit.

Being in the office long hours, over long periods of time, makes way for potential errors. My colleagues who are in the office long hours frequently make mistakes caused by fatigue. Correcting these mistakes requires their time as well as the time and energy of others. I have seen people work. Tuesday through Friday to correct mistakes made after 5 PM on Monday.

Another problem is that people who are in the office long hours are not pleasant company. They often complain about other people (who aren’t working as hard); they are irritable, or cranky, or even angry. Other people avoid them. Such behavior poses problems, where work goes much better when people work together instead of avoiding one another.

As Managers, there are things we can do to help people leave the office. First and foremost is to set the example and go home ourselves. I work with a manager who chides people for working long hours. His words quickly lose their meaning when he sends these chiding group e-mails with a time-stamp of 2 AM , Sunday.

Second is to encourage people to put some balance in their lives. For instance, here are step wise guidelines I find helpful :
1.    Wake up, eat a good breakfast, and go to work.
2.    Work hard and smart for eight or nine hours.
3.    Go home.
4.    Read the comics, watch a funny movie, dig in the dirt, play with your kids, etc.
5.    Eat well and sleep well.
This is called recreating. Doing steps 1, 3, 4, and 5 enable step 2.Working regular hours and recreating daily are simple concepts. They are hard for some of us because that requires personal change.

They are possible since we all have the power to choose to do them. In considering the issue of overtime, I am reminded of my oldest son. When he was a toddler, if people were visiting the apartment, he would not fall asleep no matter how long the visit, and no matter what time of day it was.!

He would fight off sleep until the visitors left. It was as if he was afraid that he would miss something. Once our visitors’ left, he would go to sleep.By this time, however, he was over tired and would scream through half the night with nightmares. He, my wife, and I, all paid the price for his fear of missing out.

Perhaps some people put in such long hours because they don’t want to miss anything when they leave the office. The trouble with this is that events will never stop happening. That is life ! Things happen 24 hours a day. Allowing for little rest is not ultimately practical. So, take a nap. Things will happen while you’re asleep, but you will have the energy to catch up when you wake.